Personal development leaders often counsel us to “think big” about our career dreams and life ambitions, and there are many notable lives of accomplishment we can look to for inspiration. But dreaming big can also trigger our fears.
In his article What will be your Life Monument?, Mike Litman includes Napoleon Hill, J.K. Rowling and Benjamin Franklin as examples of people who have “built something that will SERVE OTHERS (inspire, entertain) for decades, centuries. Their life has been one of SERVICE and with service comes riches and fulfillment.”
“Napoleon Hill [“Think and Grow Rich”] passed away almost 27 years ago and he’s changing my life right now,” Litman adds. About J.K. Rowling, he asks, “Do you think in 100 years from today, that young kids and adults will still be reading Harry Potter? I do.”
Ben Franklin, he notes, “was a leading author, politician, printer, scientist, philosopher, publisher, inventor, civic activist, and diplomat. Every morning he would ask himself this question when he woke up: What Good shall I do this day?”
The immediate, what we think and do today is the ground from which we grow our lives, not just our grand dreams. The image above [by Aliza Dzik] is from the book The Interior Castle by Teresa of Avila. [More on the page Inner Castles and Worlds – metaphors of self and psyche.]
The castle is in the shape of a spiral – significant as an image of personal growth and change, and of taking on the evolution of our selves and lives as a process – not a “monument” we design and build in a short time.
Litman in his blog post “Controversial Idea Saves Lives” admits “Thinking big almost destroyed me… When I was a youngen’, reading and learning, all the ‘know it all’s’ said, ‘One of the biggest keys to success is to think big.’ Thinking big had me chasing my tail for 7 years… Maybe ‘thinking big’ has worked for others, but not me. For years I thought big, big monthly, yearly goals and it was like crawling on hot coals. My progress was sloooww.
“And then I got SO FED UP with ‘thinking big’ and ‘big goals’, I knew I had to do something else. So I did the opposite. I made my goals small. Tiny. I was furious. I either had to make my business work or go work more hours at a job. So instead of my goal being $10,000 this month. My goal was $300. Then I accomplished it. The goal went to $700. Then $1,500.. $4,100. Call this controversial, but for beginner entrepreneurs I believe in the ‘magic of thinking small’. This concept transformed my life. Success is about discipline and paying the price.”
This is the kind of approach that psychologist Robert Maurer, PhD talks about in his article ‘Thinking big’ could be making you FAIL!
He writes, “When client after client came back to me frustrated, dejected, and overwhelmed with guilt because they hadn’t been able to stick to their plan — and had consequently “failed” to achieve what they had set out to do — I began to question the standard approaches to personal change … and to look for a different way. I found it in an extraordinary Japanese principle known as kaizen.”
He goes on to explain that large changes we face – even positive ones – are likely to trigger the fight-or-flight response in the brain; just the thought of change ignites fear. But kaizen, he says, “disarms the brain’s fear response.. ‘tiptoes’ around it.”
One of the hallmarks of people who really accomplish is persistence. J.K. Rowling [photo] worked for years to create her first Harry Potter novel, often working at pubs and cafes during her lunch breaks from jobs. She completed it while unemployed, living on welfare.
In his article Facing The Enemies Within, Jim Rohn declares, “Perseverance is about as important to achievement as gasoline is to driving a car. Sure, there will be times when you feel like you’re spinning your wheels, but you’ll always get out of the rut with genuine perseverance.”
This also relates to the idea of obsession, which can of course be “bad” or pathological and destructive, but can also fuel achievement. There are a number examples of “obsessed” entrepreneurs in the book The Hypomanic Edge : The Link Between (A Little) Craziness and (A Lot of) Success in America. [Also see the page hypomania]
In his article In Praise of Positive Obsessions, psychologist and creativity coach Eric Maisel, PhD describes positive obsessions as “insistent, recurrent thoughts or sets of thoughts, pressurized in feel, that are extremely difficult to ignore, that compel one to act, and that connect to one’s goals and values as an active meaning-maker and authentic human being.”
He cites Van Gogh, Dostoevsky, and Georgia O’Keeffe as examples. “It is no accident or coincidence that effective artists harbor preoccupations that rise to the level of positive obsession.”
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Article publié pour la première fois le 02/08/2015